AA Thought for the Day
March 4, 2018
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But as he calmed down, he began to listen while I tried to show him that humility was the main key
to sobriety. Finally, he saw that I wasn't attempting to change his religious views, that I wanted him
to find the grace in his own religion that would aid his recovery. From there on we got along fine. . .
Years later, this tough Irish customer liked to say, “My sponsor sold me one idea, and that was sobriety.
At the time, I couldn't have bought anything else.”
- Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, pp. 153 - 154
Thought to Ponder
The basis of all sponsorship is to lead by example.
S P O N S O R = Sober Person Offering Newcomers Suggestions On Recovery.
A Member Shares:
Hi, I'm Wendi and an alcoholic. This is a difficult topic for me. I have some different ideas than I usually hear in AA. When I first came in they told me get a sponsor. I looked around at a room full of people just as sick and broken as me. Even the ones with a few years under their belt, were still practicing their defects! I had no idea what a sponsor could or should do for me. I picked one I thought I could relate to. She served as a bad example, but did not get me through the steps. I became a hostage to her, just like I had set myself up to be my whole life. Now most around here say "I won't contact you, you need to get with me." Not sure that is good either. In the old days they assigned two people to take the newcomer through the steps. Not to work them necessarily, but to let them know what they are and what it is all about. How they work. I don't know how a newcomer who knows nothing about it is supposed to pick someone to help. If you are stuck in your obbsession, aren't you just going to pick someone who feeds them? I needed to find someone who could put principles above personalities, someone who had worked the steps, whose program was working. Until then, I used a bunch of different people. I have a sponsor now, but I'm not all buddy buddy with them. I think it is dangerous to put them on a pedestal. They are other alkies. They are human and can fail. I've seen it happen, and send others out who never made it back. So it's important to have a sponsor, but it is important to sponsor, too. I have to study the steps to help someone else through them. If you are shaky, work with another. That is what the book says, and that is what I work on. Thanks.
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