AA Thought for the Day
September 29, 2019
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Step Nine - Amends
Under no condition do we criticize such a person or argue. Simply
tell him that we will never get over drinking until we have done our
utmost to straighten out the past. We are there to sweep off our side
of the street, realizing that nothing worth while can be accomplished
until we do so, never trying to tell him what he should do.
His faults are not discussed. We stick to our own.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, (Into Action) pp. 77 - 78
Thought to Ponder
Don't mess up an amend with an excuse.
A A = Accountable Actions.
A Member Shares:
My name is Mark, very grateful alcoholic, recovered by God's grace. For me, step 9 was more difficult and frightening than all before. But it gave me more freedom. I didn't make amends like the book says on start, like the first 6 months, because I didn't know the book and no one explained to me how to do it. I was told, "everyone makes mistakes, let it go." And I never understood why, but I felt cool with it. But, I still felt restless and all after a while and found the Big Book. I read it and speakers taught me a lot too. In the end, I needed a bit more than that, and someone having experience doing it like the book says helped me out. Still grateful for it. I was guided through steps 4 - 9 specifically for my amends to my parents. The biggest one I had to do. And I was most afraid of making my amends, and then getting a reply like: "Yes Mark, you can say so!" And then them pointing out everything I said again and again. I knew for sure that would happen. And I was right about that, that *did* happen. But what I never expected, is that I didn't feel the need to feel bad about it. Or reply and fight over it. That was the unexpected for me there. I could listen to that response. And keep my mouth shut. I never expected myself to be able to do that. I am quite sure knowing what my amends were for, knowing they were real and necessary, and praying before going in made all the difference. And the unexpected has been the feeling and experience of freedom when walking out later. Stepping into the car; the first thing I thought was; I should have bought those flowers. (I didn't.) What a gift this program is, I know little. So grateful for this fellowship, these steps, and for you God.
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